Ever thought about what makes a great relationship?

Here are 9 things I see in successful relationships.

1. They have a solid foundation
   They have strong physical, emotional, social, financial and purposeful roots. This isn’t about being popular, rich, fit or successful, but each person is able to stand up on their own two feet. Being in a relationship with someone who takes responsibility for their actions means you are able to work together as a team knowing the other person has your back.
2. They can communicate effectively
   While your partner needs to be able to express themselves, it’s equally important that they can listen to your needs and concerns. Sharing feelings and needs clearly and straightforwardly helps to improve feelings of intimacy and closeness. Partners who are good at communication make the relationship easier as there’s no guesswork and confusion in trying to understand each other and their needs.
3. They share your values
   No couple is 100% going to agree on everything all the time but having similar beliefs and attitudes towards the key ‘life’ pillars is important. The more your values are aligned (and you both actively work to uphold them) the less likely you will have major disagreements in your relationship.
4. They demonstrate respect
   Respecting each other’s personal boundaries sends a powerful I love you message to the other person. Each partner has agreed to not cross those boundaries, regardless of disappointment, hurt feelings or in times of anger.
5. They show empathy
   Empathy is the ability to recognise and understand another person’s emotions and needs and is important to relationship success and is linked to relationship satisfaction. Great relationships both partners are supportive of each other especially when one of them is not in a great spot.
6. They recognise and appreciate their imperfections
   Individuals who can see their own flaws with humility and without putting themself down, shame, blame or avoidance will lead to a relationship where each person can be honest and vulnerable and be less likely to deflect blame and responsibility.
7. They’re open to influence
   Great relationships both partners are willing to accept each other’s needs and consider opinions. This boosts feelings of self-worth and self-respect, which leads to more satisfaction and happiness as each feels essential to the other.
8. They give affection in the way you need
   We all like to show and receive affection in different ways: some are very touchy-feely, while others demonstrate love through practical actions. Relationships that work well both partners communicate affection and appreciation in a way the other person likes.
9. They listen and are open during arguments
   When there is a disagreement both partners actively listen to each other seeking to provide a space to problem-solving. When your point of view is being appreciated it avoids feelings of frustration, resentment and disrespect.