Being human is all about having feelings such as love, hate, happiness, sadness, confusion, enlightenment, and so on. However, one of the most powerful emotions that human beings encounter is anger. Anger in some people can be so overwhelming to the point that it habitually involves upsetting other people and sometimes getting physically violent.
Generally, anger in a relationship can cause breakdowns, psychological and physical trouble and criminal actions. Although anger is considered a normal emotion and the body’s reaction to upsetting events, not being able to control anger can cause destruction in one’s relationships.
Letting anger in a relationship persist, can be very damaging; being in intimate relationships means living in close connection with each other’s personalities, likes, dislikes, and way of doing things, which can result in frequent clashes as one finds it easy to notice the shortcomings and become more critical and short-tempered with the other person, blaming them when things are not going great. Unless the rise of anger in a relationship is dealt with, the relationship will suffer.
Couples may truly love each other, but if they start to repeatedly get angry with each other, the happy times together will turn out to be fewer and fewer. Sooner or later there will be a point in time that even before they recover from one anger state, the next has already begun. A relationship can’t survive this; therefore, breakups and separation will happen.
In intimate relationships, the chance of getting angry rises the more you avoid it, so to put a stop to the upsurge of bad feelings, one needs to deal with anger the moment it starts to rise. The same way that living in a healthy environment means clearing away all the waste daily, clearing the mind with the mess of anger as soon as it emerges will allow a stronger relationship. The more a person allows anger in a relationship to accumulate, the harder it becomes to deal with, and will jeopardise the relationship.
Always keep in mind the role of unchecked anger in a relationship, whether intimate or not, changes people into enemies. The general assumption that anger comes up when we come across disagreeable people is not totally true; it is the anger inside us that transforms the people we meet into our anticipated foe and ultimately destroys the relationship we have with them.