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Trust is the belief in the reliability and honesty of another person.
We trust people who have integrity and are honest; people we can count on to do what is right.
Sometimes usually because of hurtful experiences from our past (past is anytime from yesterday) we either trust people too much or we are suspicious of people or somewhere in between.
Here are several signs that you may have trust issues:
You assume betrayal. You assume someone has betrayed your trust even if you have no evidence to say so.
You await betrayal. You assume someone will betray you in due time, despite how honest they have been in the past.
You are overly protective. You are very protective of your loved ones, out of fear that they will become disloyal.
You distance yourself from others. You decide it is best to limit your relationships in order to avoid fears of betrayal or abandonment.
You avoid commitment. No matter how much you care for someone, you refuse to commit yourself to him or her.
You do not forgive the smallest mistakes. You make a big deal out of nothing and it is the end of the world if someone makes the slightest mistake.
You are excessively wary of people. Everybody you meet you are extremely cautious and suspicious of.
You feel lonely or depressed. Your fears have led you to isolate yourself from others and enter a state of depression.
How to Handle Your Trust Issues
If your trust issues are holding you back in your relationships or in your life or you just want to move on from them, then a good place to start is to ask yourself why trust is important to you and how those around you would show you they are trustworthy.
These following steps will help you to let go of your trust issues:
1. Accept that learning to trust again will be hard and risky. We all let people down somehow. Placing your trust in someone is going to lead to a time when they will let us down.
2. Know how trust works. Trust is earnt and is not to be given out freely. It is okay to wait for people to earn your trust before deciding you can rely on them.
3. Take an emotional risk. One step at a time, allowing yourself to be vulnerable and risk being let down to create healthy relationships again.
4. Face your fears and other negative feelings/thoughts that you have about trust. It is crucial that you admit to yourself why you are scared and what you are scared of, so you can attempt to move on and learn from past let downs.
5. Keep trying. If you fail and go back to having trust issues, try again, maybe you trusted too much too soon. Remember trust is earnt, so it is important to go at it one step at a time.
How Can a Person Learn to Trust?
Do what you say you are going to do.
Communicate honestly and frequently. Poor communication is one of the main reasons that marriages and other relationships disintegrate.
Each one of your interactions with another person will build trust, and just one poor decision can ruin the relationship.
Show other people in your relationships that you care about them.
Always have integrity.
Admit to your mistakes, and others will see you as somebody who deserves to be trusted.
Do not make quick decisions.
Overcoming broken trust is not easy. But if you work on it one day at a time, trust will get stronger.
Need help to trust people? Then reply to this article and we can have a no obligation chat about your trust concerns.

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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