The Relationship Blame Game
In relationships we can get stuck in a ‘blame game’. It’s a game of attack and defence that leads to a cycle that draws us into conflict. The game usually begins with one partner making a personal judgement about the other like “You’re so self-centred!”. These...
4 Steps to Joy in Your Relationship
Usually, we enter a relationship hoping we will be happy. Happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy. Joy is different. It does not come and go. It does not depend upon circumstances. Joy arises from within. It is an attitude of mind that...
The Three Golden Gates
Before you say anything to anybody you should see if it can pass successfully through all three of the golden gates. If it couldn’t make it through all three gates it was probably not something that should be spoken at all. The first golden gate is, Is It True. For...
How Clarity Improves 10 Aspects of Life
Finding clarity throughout the various parts of your life is an important part of living with purpose, balance, and meaning. Having clarity in your life can positively impact your life. • Purpose -- Understanding your purpose is essential for a fulfilling life. To get...
5 Areas to Strive for Balance in Your Relationship
Sometimes, things get out of balance. Often it is not just one thing but several areas that are not working together. If you and your partner are feeling out of balance, here are five areas to consider. How connected you are Throughout your relationship, the amount of...
A Good Communication Technique to Try
We are social beings and interact with people every day of our life and our happiness depends on how the interactions with others turns out. To have good management of relationships, we need to be assertive and honest in sharing our thoughts, feelings, and concerns....
Helping someone at risk of suicide
Over the last few weeks, I have conducted a few debriefs where someone has suicided or attempted suicide. So, I thought it might be helpful share with you how you might support someone at risk of suicide. Do something now – If you are concerned that someone you know...
The 7 Keys for Improving Relationships
Human life is full of moments with people. These are people we build relationships with. And relationships aren’t just confined to people who are related to us—we can have a relationship with anyone we interact with. And it is because of this ubiquitous nature of...
7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People
WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage in these 7 destructive habits of an incompetent person. They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things Yup. They see problems in every opportunity. They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for...
5 Types of Negative Self-Talk and How to Stop Them
We like to think we’re optimistic, positive people. After all, no one wants to be considered a grump. Besides, isn’t that what we’re taught from the time we’re children, to smile and think the best of those around us? In truth, we don’t always quite hit the mark. We...