No-one wants a relationship to end and if it does it can sometimes come as a big shock, leaving you feeling confused and not sure why it happened. A breakup can leave you feeling betrayed, rejected, and can really put a dent in your self-confidence.
After a breakup you will often find yourself wondering why it happened and what you could have done to save the relationship. You will begin to ask yourself what you did wrong and what you could have done differently. All those ‘what if’ questions will start running through your mind.
Some relationships, even after a breakup, can manage to repair the damage and get back on track. But it really is much easier to save a relationship if you can prevent it from reaching break up stage. As soon as you see any signs of trouble in a relationship you need to act fast to resolve it.
You can only take steps to resolve any issues if you are aware that there are issues. If you can recognise the warning signs of a relationship in trouble, then you have a good chance of repairing it and preventing a breakup from happening. It really is essential to know what signs to look for so you can save your relationship before it’s too late.
Let’s look at some common warning signs of a breakup.
Is your partner avoiding you?
If your relationship has reached the stage when your partner seems to be spending more time with his mates than he does with you then this can be a warning sign that trouble is pending. Is your partner avoiding your phone calls? Is your partner avoiding spending any romantic time with you? Has he increased his night out with the boys from once a week to three or four times a week? A yes answer to these questions is a strong warning sign that your relationship is in strife.
Has communication between you and your partner become uncomfortable or non-existent?
A happy relationship needs to have good communication so if it seems that you are having trouble communicating with your partner then there might be something to worry about. Lack of communication goes hand in hand with the avoidance issue – if you’re partner is heading off to bed early rather than sit and watch a movie with you, then maybe they are avoiding you and communication.
Do you seem to be arguing more than normal?
All relationships have some problems and there will be arguments from time to time; that is completely normal. No two people can agree 100% about absolutely everything; it is just human nature to disagree about some issues. The problem comes when there seems to be more and more arguing and less and less normal conversation. There is also the severity of the arguments and whether they have changed from general arguing to very hostile arguing. Your relationship may be in trouble if you find that arguments have become a regular occurrence, and your partner seems to be picking fights quite a lot. Sometimes prior to a breakup a person may pick fights because it helps them to justify their intentions when they do finally make the break and end the relationship.
Avoidance, lack of communication and a lot of arguing are three big warning signs that your relationship is in trouble. If you are aware of these signs and notice them soon enough, then you can work toward resolving any problems and saving your relationship.
