Ever wondered how some people have everything that they dream of and for many it just remains a dream? Here are some tips on how to help turn your dreams into reality. It’s not a question of genetics or luck; it’s down to the strategies that we use.
Understanding what is important to us
If a goal is in line with our values, we get energy and motivation that lead us toward the goal. Most of us have experienced this type of energy and motivation at some time in our lives; maybe birthdays and Christmas as children or as adults buying a house, getting married or looking forward to a holiday.
The curious thing is how little we target the use of this behaviour towards things that we want in life. It’s because we spend little time working on making our goals fit that we have such a high failure rate at achieving them.
I’m sure you’ve set New Years resolutions. How many of those did you achieve? I suspect that for those that you did not achieve, beneath the reason for not doing so, the cost in terms of time, money, or loss of something else was too high.
If we have a greater understanding of our values, craft our goals in line with them, and address some of the other key areas listed here, we have the energy and motivation to make them happen.
Optimise the use of our time
To optimise our time on and towards what we want we must first gain a greater insight into what is important to us, and having done so we must then distinguish between the activities that we do that are important and urgent.
In my experience this is not a regularly practiced technique; too many people are reacting, reacting to activities that are asked of them or are left to the point of being urgent. Examples of this are leaving bills to the last minute before working out how to pay them. Understanding how to use your time better will lead to better outcomes.
Start with what you have now, with the end in mind
Having goals that are in line with your values and optimising your time, you need to make a start. It’s important that the start is made with the goal in mind and with a degree of realism on the resources that are available now. Delusion is the result of setting off without a realistic view of what the present situation is. And Delusion soon turns to disappointment which in turn turns to frustration and ultimately little or no significant progress. At the end of the day, we only have 3 resources: Physical and mental energy, time and money. It’s key that we learn how to make optimal use of these resources.
Meeting challenges
No amount of planning is going to cater for every eventuality. Many people consider these unplanned events to be problems that prevent progress and give up at that point. People that achieve are not put off by these events and are more energised by the richness of the opportunities that are enveloped in these events. With the right mindset the journey to achievement can be viewed as one opportunity after another to reinforce the ability to succeed.
How we use our imaginations
All human beings are blessed with incredibly powerful imaginations. However, many imagine outcomes of the future that are not going to be to their advantage. Imagining negative outcomes leads to worry, stress and fear and drains our energy and motivation. Imagining a positive outcome of the future releases more of the energy and motivation that we need to succeed at our goals. Fortunately, the structure that we use in our minds is the same for both negative and positive imaginations. And with the right know how one can use the skill that generates fear into one that generates excitement and anticipation.
Forming our goals well
When forming our goals, it is essential that we consider several factors; a compelling view of how things will be when we have the goal is as important as a clear understanding of what we will lose when we have it. Many times, the likely loss prevents us from achieving what we want because we have not adapted our thinking around the loss. An example of this is giving up smoking – many people fail to give up because having a cigarette provides them with a valuable 5-minute break. When the break is factored into the future along with the goal the chances of success are considerably increased.
Believing that it is possible that that it is for us
Many people hold negative beliefs about whether the goal is achievable, whether they will ever achieve it and even whether it is really for them. It is important to overcome these beliefs or sabotage will result. We can change our beliefs and develop the ones that allow us to achieve.
Which one/s do you need start doing?
