Self Esteem Archives - Finding the Light Counselling & Coaching

Trust and Confidence Go Hand-in-Hand

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Mar 29, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Confidence makes us secure in our abilities, strong in our convictions and know when you are wrong. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. Let’s explore how you can develop your confidence and trust yourself. Fear is the biggest detractor from... read more

Happiness Is a Choice

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 13, 2026 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Some of the lessons life teaches us can be difficult to accept. A big one is important, wonderful, and influential people in our lives will sometimes be taken away from us. Older people will tell you that you never get over the pain of losing a loved one. By focusing on the great memories of that person and their good qualities, we can lessen the pain of their loss. By choosing to focus on good things rather than obsess over not having that... read more

Self-Critical Good or Bad?

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 24, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Negative thoughts tend to be critical in their tone and can leave you feeling inadequate. Sometimes self-critical thoughts can make us work a bit harder and achieve our goals. But sometimes our negative thoughts can cause us more harm than good. What is self-criticism Self-criticism is making harsh, negative evaluations of ourselves. Negative thoughts translate into feelings of inferiority, doubt, failure, and guilt. Dwell on them too long and... read more

Frustration Tolerance

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 17, 2026 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem, Stress

Frustration tolerance is an individual’s capacity to withstand setbacks, obstacles or adverse situations without becoming upset, angry or giving up. It is an essential life skill that helps people to manage stress, remain calm under pressure and achieve their goals when things are not going to plan. High frustration tolerance is associated with resilience, emotional maturity, and success in personal and professional settings. People with... read more

5 Behaviors of Successful People

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Dec 7, 2025 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Successful people are not typically born with the habits and behaviors that help them get to where they want to be. Through hard work and perseverance, people discover things that successful people do. Spend Time with Other Successful People When you spend time with other successful people, you tend to adopt the behaviors and habits that they display. This is true of many friendships, which begin with a common trait and then expand to friends... read more

Do Aspirations Matter?

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Nov 30, 2025 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem

As a kid, did you dream about being a police officer, astronaut, or ….? If so, you had long-term hopes that influenced everything you did, from the tv shows you watched to the classes you took in school. Without those aspirations, you may have felt like you were floundering in the choppy seas called life. Many people go through life without a real feeling of accomplishment or end goals. They graduate from school, maybe go to Uni, and enter... read more