Life Coaching Archives - Finding the Light Counselling & Coaching

Happiness Is a Choice

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 13, 2026 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Some of the lessons life teaches us can be difficult to accept. A big one is important, wonderful, and influential people in our lives will sometimes be taken away from us. Older people will tell you that you never get over the pain of losing a loved one. By focusing on the great memories of that person and their good qualities, we can lessen the pain of their loss. By choosing to focus on good things rather than obsess over not having that... read more

Flooding your Relationships with Emotions

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 31, 2026 | Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Emotional flooding happens when our emotions become so overwhelming that our body goes into a stress response. Your heart races, thoughts blur and it feels impossible to stay calm or think clearly. Instead of responding thoughtfully in a respectful manner, you might lash out, withdraw or shut down. An example of emotional flooding: a couple arguing, one partner raises their voice, and the other suddenly feels their chest tighten and mind go... read more

Self-Critical Good or Bad?

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 24, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Negative thoughts tend to be critical in their tone and can leave you feeling inadequate. Sometimes self-critical thoughts can make us work a bit harder and achieve our goals. But sometimes our negative thoughts can cause us more harm than good. What is self-criticism Self-criticism is making harsh, negative evaluations of ourselves. Negative thoughts translate into feelings of inferiority, doubt, failure, and guilt. Dwell on them too long and... read more

Frustration Tolerance

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 17, 2026 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem, Stress

Frustration tolerance is an individual’s capacity to withstand setbacks, obstacles or adverse situations without becoming upset, angry or giving up. It is an essential life skill that helps people to manage stress, remain calm under pressure and achieve their goals when things are not going to plan. High frustration tolerance is associated with resilience, emotional maturity, and success in personal and professional settings. People with... read more

Moving on From Being Ghosted

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 11, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Have you been Ghosted? Do you know what being Ghosted is? To be ghosted means to have someone suddenly end all communication and contact with you, without any warning, explanation, or closure. The person “vanishes” like a ghost. Whether it was you or a friend, the pain of being ghosted was intense and at times quite puzzling. Why can’t someone just move on from being ghosted? After all, the message is clear, “I don’t want a... read more

Self-Sabotaging Thoughts That Hinder Happiness

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 3, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Most people go through times when they have trouble getting their thoughts to align with their intentions. When that happens, it can hinder your happiness. It can get in the way of your happiness because these types of thoughts are focusing on what’s wrong, what’s missing, or the negativity of the situation instead of the positives. I Don’t Like People – Many people, especially introverts, tend to focus their decisions on how many people will... read more