I see long term intimate relationships as being in a team. Patrick Lencioni – the author of the book – The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team says teams tend to encounter the same issues repeatedly and they also apply to relationships I see. Dysfunction #1: Absence of Trust Lencioni points out, trust is one of those words that gets used so often that it has lost some of its meaning. He says that he intends it to mean “the confidence... read more

Why is it you’re not getting ahead? Are you having difficulty in finding opportunities, or could it be you’re not taking the opportunities when they come to you? Crazy as it sounds, the most common reason people don’t succeed is that they’re engaging in self-defeating behaviours. If you’re not performing at the level, you think you ought to be you might want to consider whether you have become your own worst enemy.... read more

Obstacles seem to make us stand still; and keep us from getting where we want to go. What if obstacles weren’t as bad as you thought? What if what you’re looking at is not so much an obstacle, as an opportunity? Here are 10 steps to change how we see obstacles: Take a Minute Whatever you’re doing when you hit the obstacle Stop. When you stop, you give yourself time to consider the options without all the emotions flaring up. You guard yourself... read more

People often ask me what things they can do, to keep their relationship alive and well. Here are ten ways you can do that. The more you do, the better your relationship will be. Build a culture of appreciation, respect, and tolerance. Live your days appreciating and showing your partner respect. What is the point of being in a relationship if you do not respect or appreciate your partner? Develop trust through sharing your innermost thoughts... read more