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Get Out of Your Head

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Mar 8, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Stress

Do you ever have those moments where you are trying to get something done, but you can’t get out of your head long enough to focus? Maybe you are fearful, doubtful, anxious, stressed, or simply remembering an embarrassing situation from ten years ago. Whatever the reason, sometimes we struggle to get out of our heads. If this sounds like you, check out these seven handy tips on how to deal with it. 1. Schedule Reflection Time You... read more

Reading The Signs: Common Relationship Mistakes

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 28, 2026 | Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

No matter how you slice it, the breakup of a relationship usually leaves at least one person asking, how did this happen? The people who ask this question often are the ones who failed to recognise the warning signs that pointed to a relationship in jeopardy. The reasons can range from being too involved to being too detached. The insight and wisdom you gain from this experience usually comes too late save that relationship. So how can you... read more

Building Stronger Relationships

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 22, 2026 | Uncategorized

Even the healthiest of relationships can use a little extra work. Here are some simple tips to make sure things stay on the right track. Embrace each other’s differences “They might be ambitious, while you’re more of a homebody”. This is a good dynamic, since one of you can initiate activity or go out and adventure, while one of you enjoys quiet time and keeps the home fire burning. Consider their perspective Be curious about the way they do... read more

Happiness Is a Choice

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 13, 2026 | Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Some of the lessons life teaches us can be difficult to accept. A big one is important, wonderful, and influential people in our lives will sometimes be taken away from us. Older people will tell you that you never get over the pain of losing a loved one. By focusing on the great memories of that person and their good qualities, we can lessen the pain of their loss. By choosing to focus on good things rather than obsess over not having that... read more

5 Free Gifts to Show Your Love!

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 7, 2026 | Relationship Counselling

Saturday this week is Valentines Day! Rather than get caught up in the commercialism of this day, can I invite you to see it differently? It seems to me that Valentines Day is about big better. The more I spend, the more it says I love you. Well, that is what the marketing and advertising people would tell us. Vouchers or coupons are a fun way to show your love to someone without spending any money. Five ideas for them are: I am yours for... read more

Flooding your Relationships with Emotions

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 31, 2026 | Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Emotional flooding happens when our emotions become so overwhelming that our body goes into a stress response. Your heart races, thoughts blur and it feels impossible to stay calm or think clearly. Instead of responding thoughtfully in a respectful manner, you might lash out, withdraw or shut down. An example of emotional flooding: a couple arguing, one partner raises their voice, and the other suddenly feels their chest tighten and mind go... read more

Self-Critical Good or Bad?

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 24, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Negative thoughts tend to be critical in their tone and can leave you feeling inadequate. Sometimes self-critical thoughts can make us work a bit harder and achieve our goals. But sometimes our negative thoughts can cause us more harm than good. What is self-criticism Self-criticism is making harsh, negative evaluations of ourselves. Negative thoughts translate into feelings of inferiority, doubt, failure, and guilt. Dwell on them too long and... read more