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7 Tips for Starving Negative Self-Talk

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Apr 4, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching

You’re caught up in a cycle. You know the one. You’ve been talking down to yourself for a while. Every word in your mind points out your flaws and mistakes to where you think you’re going to go crazy from listening to it if you haven’t already. Negative self-talk gets in your head, courtesy of previous experiences, and negative input from people who don’t always mean well. Once there, it plays the same song on repeat, growing somehow worse with... read more

Trust and Confidence Go Hand-in-Hand

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Mar 29, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Confidence makes us secure in our abilities, strong in our convictions and know when you are wrong. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. Let’s explore how you can develop your confidence and trust yourself. Fear is the biggest detractor from... read more

Get Out of Your Head

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Mar 8, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Stress

Do you ever have those moments where you are trying to get something done, but you can’t get out of your head long enough to focus? Maybe you are fearful, doubtful, anxious, stressed, or simply remembering an embarrassing situation from ten years ago. Whatever the reason, sometimes we struggle to get out of our heads. If this sounds like you, check out these seven handy tips on how to deal with it. 1. Schedule Reflection Time You... read more

Self-Critical Good or Bad?

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 24, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Self Esteem

Negative thoughts tend to be critical in their tone and can leave you feeling inadequate. Sometimes self-critical thoughts can make us work a bit harder and achieve our goals. But sometimes our negative thoughts can cause us more harm than good. What is self-criticism Self-criticism is making harsh, negative evaluations of ourselves. Negative thoughts translate into feelings of inferiority, doubt, failure, and guilt. Dwell on them too long and... read more

Moving on From Being Ghosted

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 11, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Have you been Ghosted? Do you know what being Ghosted is? To be ghosted means to have someone suddenly end all communication and contact with you, without any warning, explanation, or closure. The person “vanishes” like a ghost. Whether it was you or a friend, the pain of being ghosted was intense and at times quite puzzling. Why can’t someone just move on from being ghosted? After all, the message is clear, “I don’t want a... read more

Self-Sabotaging Thoughts That Hinder Happiness

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jan 3, 2026 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

Most people go through times when they have trouble getting their thoughts to align with their intentions. When that happens, it can hinder your happiness. It can get in the way of your happiness because these types of thoughts are focusing on what’s wrong, what’s missing, or the negativity of the situation instead of the positives. I Don’t Like People – Many people, especially introverts, tend to focus their decisions on how many people will... read more