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4 Signs You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

Why is it you’re not getting ahead? Are you having difficulty in finding opportunities, or could it be you’re not taking the opportunities when they come to you?

Crazy as it sounds, the most common reason people don’t succeed is that they’re engaging in self-defeating behaviours. If you’re not performing at the level, you think you ought to be; you might want to consider whether or not you’ve become your own worst enemy.

How can you tell? Look for these four signs:

You Use the Emergency Exit
Do you tend to come close to completion of a project only to back out at the last minute? When you feel the need to bail, it’s typically because you’re afraid to take the last step. Either you’re too worried that it won’t work out, or worse, you’re worried that it will. It’s not uncommon to back away from things that frighten us. This is why we end a relationship the moment we start to feel close to the other person. It’s also why we sabotage ourselves at work when we hear we’re being considered for promotion.

You’re Procrastinating
When you put things off, it typically means you are feeling unsure about what you’re doing. If you feel like your skills are not up to the task, or you’re not confident regarding the next step, it’s natural to put things off, hoping that they’ll seem more apparent later. The problem is this clarity rarely comes. In truth, we only wind up sinking ourselves when we should have been asking for help.

You’re Burying Yourself in Something Else Entirely
Are you easily distracted? If you’re worried about the outcome of one project, it’s not uncommon to throw yourself into another. This helps you keep your mind off what worries you. It also keeps you from getting done what you need to.

You’re Giving Yourself the Wrong Pep Talk
Instead of using some positive self-talk to get things done, are you by any chance using negative self-talk to keep you from trying? After all, it’s very easy to convince ourselves that we’re failures. Why do we do it? Because if we know, it’s not going to work out, we never have to try in the first place.

All these behaviours can have a seriously detrimental effect on what we’re doing. Indeed, we are experts at being their own worst enemies, especially when we were trying to accomplish something which involves any manner of risk, or the task is personally important to us.

Which one/s are you?

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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