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The Three Golden Gates

Before you say anything to anybody you should see if it can pass successfully through all three of the golden gates. If it couldn’t make it through all three gates it was probably not something that should be spoken at all.

The first golden gate is, Is It True.

For most people this is the only gate they let their words pass through. Who has not heard someone retort well it is true isn’t it right after they had slaughtered someone with a few poison words. This is poor diplomacy at best and is often used as a cloak of maliciousness. That something is true is not a mandate for you to repeat it to the hurt of others. It is no secret that truth without love is cruelty and love without truth is sentimentality. Many truths are weapons in the hands of those whose motive it is to hurt. Truth then is only gate number one, so let’s move on.

The second golden gate is, “Is It Needful.”

Regardless of the veracity of what you are about to say, do you really need to say it? Here is where a lot of retorts will fail to report. Most of the nasty things repeated would have no sting at all if they attempted to pass through gate two. Only people of character will have gate number two. People who care about others, who understand the weight of words and who seek love are those who have a second golden gate. The power of this golden gate comes from the golden rule. If we disregard someone else’s peace, privacy or dignity, who will guard our own?

The third golden gate is, “Is It Kind.”

This is the gate that causes a person to honestly look at their own motives for saying something. True things can be spoken to hurt. Un-needful things are spoken daily by the careless and indifferent. Words spoken without love are the worst of the bunch because they have a lingering and damaging effect whose poison goes on and on. They are the great enemy of mankind. The are the precursors to every evil result from hatred to murder. Most words that have made it through the first two gates will fail at gate number three.

These gates are useful in almost every personal relationship you will ever have. They can help marriages, families, and any interaction with anyone on any level. They require a conscious effort to use and in time you will become more skilful at using them but in every case, you will become a better person for trying.

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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