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5 Steps to Embracing Your Loneliness

Loneliness is something most people try to avoid. But being alone is an inevitable part of life. It happens to everyone at some time or another. It is important to be able to separate solitude from loneliness and to understand what is behind your feelings so you can embrace being alone.

  1. Work Out the Root Cause of Your Fear of Loneliness

Some scientists believe loneliness is a basic emotion on a par with fear and anger. Being part of a group or being in a relationship gives us a sense of belonging. A fear of loneliness can keep us in toxic relationships, unfulfilling jobs, and bad marriages. Identify what’s behind your fear of loneliness, and you can start to work on it.

  1. Learn to Understand your Loneliness

Loneliness comes in many different guises. It can be temporary situational loneliness where you find yourself without company or help. Or you can be going through a life crisis that results in more extended social isolation. A relationship breakdown, losing your job, or being seriously ill can all make you feel completely cut off from love and support.

  1. Appreciate Solitude

Solitude is quite a different state from loneliness. Artists, philosophers, and writers over the centuries have sought out solitude to think deeply and widely and to create their best work. Solitude can be a comfort in an overcrowded life. When you are by yourself, you can expand into being your true self.

  1. Confront your Deepest Fears

Loneliness can be a product of the fundamental fear of separation that goes back to infancy. Separation means being vulnerable, having no one to rely on except yourself. This is the loneliness that realizes that in the end, there is nothing between you and the stars, no one to rescue you. That sort of existential fear can be scary. What are your deepest fears about being lonely? Identify them, acknowledge them, and take away some of their power over you.

  1. Use Self-Actualizing Practices to Overcome Loneliness

Techniques like yoga, tai chi, meditation, and prayer can help you reconnect with your deepest self. Sitting alone in meditation separates you from the negative thought spirals and feelings that can make you feel so miserable.

A loving-kindness reflective practice can help you replace feelings of separation with feelings of love and connection. Give it a try:

Sit quietly and focus on your breath.

Breathe in, think ‘I will be happy.’

Breathe out, think ‘I will be loved.’

Breathe in, think ‘All my suffering be healed.’

Breathe out, think ‘I will be at peace.’

This simple practice can help you feel more connected to all of life whenever you do it.

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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