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7 Types of Loneliness

As we approach the Christmas New Year period, I’m reminded that many people who feel lonely, feel even more lonely at this time of the year.

Loneliness is an intense empty, sad, sinking or burning feeling within.

Loneliness is something you can’t avoid in life. There will be times when you feel lonely, but you can deal with if you identify the source of why you are feeling lonely.

  1. ‘New Kid’ Loneliness
    Like being the new kid at school, there are times in your life when you’re in a completely new situation. Whether it’s a new job, a new city, or a new school, you’re likely to feel lonely in the beginning.
  2. Not Fitting in Loneliness.
    This is the loneliness that strikes when you feel different from the people around you. You may be an introvert in a team of extroverts. Maybe your values aren’t shared with the people around you. You feel separate and different.
  3. Lack of Romance Loneliness
    When you don’t have a partner, it can seem like everyone else in the entire world has a significant other. Or maybe you do have a partner, but you feel disconnected. That’s lonely.
  4. Missing a Pet Loneliness
    There’s no company like that of your pet. Maybe you’re missing your dog or cat. Pets can provide a special connection, and when it’s not there, you really miss it.
  5. Too Busy for Me Loneliness
    There are times in your life when it feels like you’re not a priority for anyone. People get busy with their own lives and leave you feeling stranded and alone.
  6. Toxic Fringes Loneliness
    Worse than busy friends are toxic ‘friends’ who get their energy from belittling you or making you feel inadequate. If you don’t feel supported by your friends, or you feel you can’t really trust them, they are not good friends to have in your life.
  7. Lack of Company Loneliness
    Sometimes loneliness can come simply from not having anyone to hang out with. Someone just to share space and be with. It doesn’t matter if you’re busy at work or are out partying every night. A lack of a quiet presence can make you feel deeply lonely.

Once you’ve worked out what type of loneliness you’re feeling right now, you can take steps to address it. For example, if you’re missing having an animal in your life, you can adopt a pet or volunteer at the local animal rescue centre or have toxic people around you, then join a social group or a team sport.

Make time in your life for meaningful relationships, not the ones that don’t feed your soul. Look for people you share values or interests with, and slowly you will make connections that will banish loneliness.

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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