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I Say, “Positive Thinking Is Hogwash!”

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 27, 2021 | Depression, Employee Assistance Programme, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress

“Positive thinking” is Over-rated. And Even Dangerous! Excessive positivity is just as dangerous as excessive negativity. The negative person, head down to the ground, stumbles along the train tracks moaning, “I have such bad luck, I’ll probably get knocked over by a train.” And gets knocked over by a train. Meanwhile the positive person with their head in the clouds, skips along the tracks with so much positivity that they... read more

Overcoming a Crisis

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 19, 2021 | Depression, Employee Assistance Programme, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Stress, Suicide

When you are hit by a crisis, there is usually an emotional storm going through your mind and body, with negative thoughts and feelings going in all directions. One way to overcome this is: S.T.O.P. Slow your breathing Focus on your breathing by slowing down your breaths going in and going out. This will help you to calm down and reduce the influence of your emotions. Take note Take notice of what you are thinking and feeling. Do not buy into... read more

ATTACHMENT STYLES

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 13, 2021 | Depression, General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

The way we attached to our caregivers as children affects the way we connect with others and can lead to poor adult relationships. DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT The dismissive avoidant was emotionally neglected by their caregivers during their childhood and learned that they must rely solely on themselves. Therefore, they can be withdrawn and easily get overwhelmed in relationships. FEARFUL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT Someone who is fearful avoidant... read more

6 Lies We Tell Ourselves

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 6, 2021 | General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling

I talk to a lot of people during the week and hear many reasons why someone’s life is not going liked they want it to. Some of the common ones are: Lie #1: Something else will make me happy. Changing your job is only changing your job. Moving to a different work environment will not change who you are. You must choose to be happy, grateful, and fulfilled, no matter where you are. Lie #2: I will start tomorrow. A big reason most of us never get... read more

6 Simple Tricks for Dealing with Pressure

This entry was posted by David Lawson | May 30, 2021 | Depression, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

If you aren’t careful, pressure can sneak up and overwhelm you. Before you know it, you’re a mess. Sitting in your chair, sweating, heart racing, and dreading the thought of doing any work. Fortunately there are some tricks to dealing with pressure. With a little practice, you can turn nerve-wracking stress into pure motivation. Count Backwards It sounds simple, but counting backwards from 100 is a great way to distract yourself... read more

7 Hacks to Motivate Yourself to Make Progress

This entry was posted by David Lawson | May 23, 2021 | General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress

Ready to stop procrastinating and make some progress? Try one of these seven simple hacks to motivate yourself into action. Give them each a try over the coming days and weeks and find the ones that make the biggest difference for you. Whenever you find yourself procrastinating, come back to this list and employ one or several of these hacks. Your productivity will soar. Tip #1: Pick Something Small One of the big reasons we procrastinate is... read more