We all have some sort of bruising or wounding from our past. The past can be yesterday, last week, last month, last year or as far back you can go in head.
Whatever we do in the present is influenced directly or indirectly by the hurt and pain of our past. Sometimes we are conscious of it. A lot of times we are not aware of its influence over us (which is unconscious).
It is in the present that we have the opportunity to have satisfying relationships and set the foundation for future relationships.
The problem relationship from our past can do one of two things:
- Overwhelm us and we go from one bad relationship to another or we start to believe there is something wrong with the person in the mirror and love and happiness will never come your way. So, you accept the dodgy/toxic relationships you get into as the best you can do. Or you find a deserted island and live the life of a lonely single person.
- See the past bad relationships as an opportunity to learn and become a better person. Maybe a more attentive person, maybe a more loving person or stop drinking to excess or doing drugs (whatever the issues are that has caused you relationships to not work).
Whatever you do, it is a choice. You choose to let your past drag you down or you choose to learn from your past relationships to be a better person.
The choice is yours. What will you choose?