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Toxic People

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Nov 21, 2021 | Career Match, Depression, Employee Assistance Programme, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

Most of us have someone in their life who drain us no matter what we are doing. They are manipulative and give you the run around no matter how hard you try to do thing things their way. Some common traits of a toxic person: They thrive on drama and chaos, which gets them sympathy and attention. They need to be the centre of attention. They cannot tell the truth. They are always right. They rarely say anything nice about others. They are... read more

How the Brain Responds to a Crisis

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Nov 7, 2021 | Depression, General Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

Our brain uses our five senses of sight, smell, sound, taste and touch to evaluate what is going on around us. If the information being gathered is interpreted as we are safe, then the brain allows us to continue to do what we are doing. If the brain determines things are not safe, then it overrides whatever we are doing to keep us safe. It does this as it has a role to protect us and keep us safe. It chooses four ways to protect us: Fight... read more

The Most Powerful Word – No!

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Oct 31, 2021 | Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

In our society the default answer to every question is “Yes.” Advertising is all geared towards getting us to say “Yes – I need that.” We phrase our inquiries looking for yes: “Would you like more coffee?” “Would you be interested in joining me for dinner?” “Would you help me move next week?” “Would you mind if I asked you a personal question?” “Do you love me?” With such a powerful default answer ingrained in us it can be difficult to... read more

The Drama Triangle Part 1

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Aug 8, 2021 | Depression, Employee Assistance Programme, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

At times our life seems to be full of drama. The way we respond or react to the drama around us has been called the Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman. The three roles on the drama triangle are Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim. Victim – “Poor me.” Victims often feel victimised, trapped, helpless and hopeless. They think they are at the mercy of life. They are unwilling to take responsibility for their circumstances and cannot see they have the... read more

Overcoming a Crisis

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 19, 2021 | Depression, Employee Assistance Programme, General Counselling, Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Stress, Suicide

When you are hit by a crisis, there is usually an emotional storm going through your mind and body, with negative thoughts and feelings going in all directions. One way to overcome this is: S.T.O.P. Slow your breathing Focus on your breathing by slowing down your breaths going in and going out. This will help you to calm down and reduce the influence of your emotions. Take note Take notice of what you are thinking and feeling. Do not buy into... read more

ATTACHMENT STYLES

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jun 13, 2021 | Depression, General Counselling, Life Coaching, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem, Stress, Suicide

The way we attached to our caregivers as children affects the way we connect with others and can lead to poor adult relationships. DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT The dismissive avoidant was emotionally neglected by their caregivers during their childhood and learned that they must rely solely on themselves. Therefore, they can be withdrawn and easily get overwhelmed in relationships. FEARFUL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT Someone who is fearful avoidant... read more