Relationship Archives - Finding the Light Counselling & Coaching

Communicating Love to my Valentine!

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Feb 13, 2018 | Celebrations, Relationship Counselling

How to Communicate LOVE to your Mate … It’s Valentine’s Day, the day for lovers and romance. Red roses, cards, marriage proposals, romantic dinners, outings, gifts … are all ways of celebrating this special day. How do you impress that special someone? Men, how do you feel when you give your mate an expensive piece of jewellery, but she hardly looks at it and says she’d rather spend time with you? Ladies, how do you feel when you spend most... read more

9 Signs Your Relationship is Dying

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Jul 26, 2017 | Relationship Counselling

When people know I am a relationship coach they often ask what I consider to be warning signs that an intimate relationship is dying. These are the signs I frequently see. We only argue. When a relationship is in its death throes, arguing and fighting are very common. Often it will be over trivial things like “the car needs fuel”, “the lawn needs mowing”, “what have you done today?” and each person feels the other is grilling them all the time.... read more

Don’t Win the Battle to Lose the War …

This entry was posted by David Lawson | May 25, 2017 | Employee Assistance Programme, Relationship Counselling

Is winning an argument worth it? In this article I will summarise some of the principles in Part Three – How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking – of Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Win Friends & Influence People” *. Principle 1 – The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. Carnegie writes that winning an argument is pointless if it is only to prove to the other person that they are wrong and you are right. An argument... read more

Be Interested in People for Them to Like You

This entry was posted by David Lawson | May 11, 2017 | Healthy Workplace, Relationship Counselling, Self Esteem

Be interested in people! In this article, we will summarise the principles of Part Two – Six Ways to Make People Like You – of Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Win Friends & Influence People” *. Have you started reading it yet? All of us like to be liked. Even one person not liking us, can affect how we view ourselves. Principle 1 – Be genuinely interested in other people. Carnegie talks about Tippy, the puppy his father bought him... read more

How to Win Friends & Influence People

This entry was posted by David Lawson | Apr 18, 2017 | Healthy Workplace, Life Coaching, Uncategorized

Most people know the classic written by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends & Influence people” *. Have you read it? It’s a timeless book, designed for regular reading. Dale Carnegie conducted a great deal of research and interviewed many people before writing this book. This article is my summary of the principles in Part One of his book – “Fundamental Techniques in Handling People”. These principles are as important now as when Carnegie... read more